Updated: Jul 30
Okay, so now that you know how important trusting yourself is, of course, the question becomes
“Well, how do I stop doubting myself and develop self -trust?”
I’ve got some suggestions for you, and then I’ll tell you how you can take this a step further.
1. Stop caring so much about what other people think
Anytime you try to grow and do something different, you’ll encounter naysayers and critics. Sometimes they can have valid feedback, but often they just have a limited view of you or the world. These people don’t recognize the potential you feel in your heart.
Walt Disney ran into the same problem with critics when creating Disneyland, the famous theme park. He followed this success with Walt Disney World, the most popular vacation resort on the planet. But if Walt Disney had listened to all the people who thought he was nuts to even think of building a theme park, these amazing places that bring joy to millions every year wouldn’t exist.
Affirm that you can make good decisions for yourself regardless of what anybody else thinks.
2. Get rid of “I can’t”
“I can’t” is the epitome of self-doubt. It’s not to say that there aren’t things you simply cannot do, but most people greatly underestimate their true capabilities.
Practice replacing any thoughts of “I can’t” with “I am more than capable”. Write it down 10,000 times if you have to. Your creativity and resourcefulness will skyrocket, and you’ll be much more resilient toward any challenges that come up.
3. Be a Warrior
My definition of a warrior is “one who conquers oneself.” This means you don’t let your overprotective mind run your life. It means you’re willing to take risks and make mistakes. It also means you’re committed enough to your goals and dreams that you become whatever you have to be, and do whatever you have to do to succeed.
4. Take action
Don’t wait for confidence before you do what you want to do. Confidence comes from doing and succeeding. So take the first step toward your goals and practice consistently until you succeed, until it becomes impossible to think you could fail. Then move on to the next.
5. Keep a success journal
You’re always building and reinforcing habits of one kind or another. The only question is, which habits are you going to build – supportive ones or destructive ones?
Keeping a success journal reinforces your successes in your mind so you build more self-trust. This is backed by the latest neuroscience of self-trust, which says that, “When it comes to trusting ourselves, we need to have retrievable memory of experiences where we were able to rely on ourselves to handle a difficult situation.”
Self-trust and self-doubt both come from your mind, which works to protect you and keep you alive. It does NOT necessarily work towards your happiness or fulfillments. So it always tries to show you any possible dangers and keep you safe.
Trusting yourself doesn’t mean you throw all caution to the wind and ignore important warning signs. But it does mean you can consciously evaluate the alerts coming from your mind and determine which thoughts are legitimate and which can be overlooked because of your own natural abilities and knowledge.
Take your self-trust one step at a time. Go for small wins and show yourself you can do and be more than you thought.
Developing trust in yourself is like building a muscle – you wouldn’t walk into a gym on day one with no weightlifting experience and deadlift 300 lbs. You’d want to set yourself up for success by learning the proper technique and maybe starting with just the bar.
Final Thoughts On Self-Trust
Trusting yourself comes down to understanding how your mind works and mastering it. Figuring this out – and helping others understand it as well – has been the great work of my life.
I hope you will use the concepts from this article to start building your self-trust muscle. And if you’d like to dive deeper with me into discovering how to take control of your mind, develop self-trust, and become a powerful warrior, I’ve got something you’re going to love.